THE SECRET TO IMPROVING YOUR CHARM ON DATING
If you’re active with your social life, you perhaps are well aware of how this world has become competitive in each aspect of our lives, including dating.
Dating these days is quite hard as people have raised their expectations pretty high. The question which arises here is, how do you impress your date in this fast-paced era?
There are people out there who can easily get flattered by your money, looks, style, etc. If this is the criteria for them, flex what you have. On the other hand, some people are almost impossible to impress no matter how hard you try.
These are people who do not fall for worldly things. They seek out traits that are deeper than wealth and looks. Your alluring eyes might attract your date on the first meet-up, but it is your personality that would make him stick to you for a lifetime. Beauty fades away with time, but the character always remains the same.
It can be complex thinking about ways to impress your date, especially if it is your first outing with them. Since first impressions are the last impressions, make sure you make them fall for you in the blink of an eye.
Being a genuinely charming woman has less to do with fair skin and long hair but more to do with openness and empathy.
Here are some tips on how you can improve your charm on dating.
Tips 1: Make Sure to Dress Well
The first step to nail the charm quotient on a date is dressing the best you can. Our personality says so much about us. It does not matter whether you’re a fashion diva or not. The way you dress yourself up expresses your inner self.
It is unnecessary to follow the hot new trends when deciding your outfit for a date night. You have to find clothes that suit you and make you look great. Please do not overdo it. Keep everything simple and elegant.
Look for something that makes you feel comfortable and confident. If you plan to wear something new, try it before your date. It would be better to choose an outfit you had already worn before and knew how well it fits you. There are many dress styles for you to select, boho style, causal style, basics style, daily wear style and more.
If you don’t like to keep up with fashion, then this is the time to ring your fashionista friend. A person with a good fashion sense would guide you on what goes with your body and what does not.
Tips 2: Stay Confident
You would have heard this piece of advice from almost everyone around you. To give off the vibe of being self-confident, you do not have to be self-confident. Follow the ‘fake it till you make it’ mantra and see the magic.
Just appear confident. That is all to enhance your self-esteem. You can come off charismatic just by adopting a solid and decent posture. Even when you have a bad day and do not feel confident, you can still appear confident by striking the right pose. A broad stance will make you look like you are in your true self. Practice sitting up stiff and straight.
Tips 3: Show Interest
It is great to be confident, but it would be useless unless or until you do not appear interested in your date. An assertive posture is a thing, but you should exude the warmth of your presence to the person sitting beside you.
Now the question is, how do you show interest in your date?
The answer is simple. Just think of things that are attractive and appealing about your date. Keep your focus on their qualities while talking to them. It is not plausible to be charming unless you do not show interest in the other person by being curious about his traits.
So, it would be best if you seemed inquisitive about your date. All you have to do is strike the right balance between self-confidence and being interested in your date. You have to listen to what they say quietly and carefully, do not keep on speaking.
Give your date a chance to express himself. If your date is being shy, ask them questions. Let them talk and get to know you better.
Tips 4: Be Yourself
Being Being vulnerable on your first date sounds like a big turn-off, but this is not true. If you are vulnerable to your date, you can easily charm the pants off them. Showing your true self is an excellent way to impress anyone.
Revealing your actual human side is more charismatic than having a pretty face. Most of us fear being rejected if we open up but being yourself is the true way of attracting someone your way.
Tell your date about an embarrassing moment or a weakness, and watch how your date would feel extremely comfortable around you. Talk about an emotional movie or any of your funny secrets but do not go too far.
Be vulnerable but in a limited space. Discussing such embarrassing and unexpected moments in your life would help you boost your confidence. You would feel satisfied and happy being in your zone.
Tips 5: Be Well-Mannered and Polite
Being impolite are traits that are more than often not welcomed. It can be anything like starting your food before your date arrives, chewing food loudly, or cutting off sentences of your date.
If you think you are bad at being polite, you might kill the romance. If you think of making physical contact with your date, stop it. It is too early for them to feel that comfortable around you. Do not be desperate. Take things slow and easy. Throw cheesy pick-up lines but in a fun way.
You will score 10/10 if you remain patient and calm on your first date.
Beauty is not everything that matters. There is a lot more to look for. But before you judge anybody else, find out qualities in yourself.
Your personality presents you in the best way possible, so you have to make sure you work on it. Be who you are. Do not fake it. Smile, spread positivity, and be warm.
People will automatically be enchanted with your presence. Be the best version of yourself. If your date is not impressed by the real you, it was never meant for you.
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Blog Writer: Sonia Chan
Sonia Chan is a fashion designer and blogger. She can speak both English and Spanish and she is also a freelance writer. She has been focusing on creating women’s apparel and accessories for 6 years. As a creative worker, she is good at observing stuff around daily life, and keen on integrating modern elements into her collection. Sonia loves to share, bringing the latest fashion info and her opinions into her articles. Check her facebook to know more.